List

101 Things Every Adult Needs to Know

  1. How to change a tire
  2. How to jumpstart your car
  3. How to open a bottle of champagne (Hint: Twist the bottle, not the cork!)
  4. Do your taxes — even if it is with TurboTax or something similar!
  5. Make a schedule and to-do list — and stick with it! Time management is so important!
  6. Start a savings account
  7. Start a retirement account
  8. Make a monthly budget, including savings and retirement — and follow it!!!
  9. Figure out how to invest
  10. Learn how to respectfully say no
  11. Learn how to negotiate
  12. Learn how to cook at least a few meals well
  13. Remember to back up your computer often
  14. Save all your passwords in an app or locked Excel document
  15. Learn how to online bank
  16. Pay bills automatically online
  17. Start getting credit! Get a credit card — but make sure to pay it off in full each month. Learn how to use credit wisely
  18. Don’t get into debt
  19. Learn how to show up on time, especially if you’re chronically late
  20. Find a place for your keys so you don’t constantly lose them
  21. Stay informed
  22. Register to vote and make sure to vote in every election!!!
  23. Create a will and living will
  24. Get a primary care physician and any other kind of doctor you need
  25. Keep all health-related things in order, including any medications you’re on or have previously been on
  26. Pair a bottle of wine with your meal
  27. Know how to use a grill
  28. Own basic wardrobe staples
  29. Learn how to parallel park
  30. Know how to tie a tie
  31. Learn how to make basic cocktails
  32. Keep your house or apartment clean
  33. Start a conversation and engage in small talk
  34. Give a proper handshake
  35. Learn how to be decisive
  36. Set goals for each month
  37. Learn how to sew a button
  38. Buy a first aid kit for both your house and car
  39. Learn the Heimlich Maneuver
  40. Learn how to hang a picture on the wall
  41. Have a hobby or two
  42. Learn how to put on a condom
  43. Learn to do your own laundry
  44. Learn how to get stains out of clothes
  45. Learn how to iron and steam clothes
  46. Learn and remember to change the filters on both your air conditioner and your refrigerator
  47. Figure out how to change the batteries on your smoke detector and test it
  48. Learn to unclog a toilet
  49. How to turn the water off to your house in case of a freeze
  50. Remember to write thank-you notes
  51. Admit when you’re wrong
  52. How to wrap a present
  53. Learn to use a fire extinguisher
  54. Make the first move when dating — don’t be afraid to ask somebody out!
  55. Learn how to flirt
  56. Set boundaries when it comes to sex
  57. Set boundaries in both your personal and professional life
  58. Take care of yourself first
  59. Listen to people
  60. Listen to people’s actions
  61. Know how to deal with police if you get pulled over
  62. Don’t put anything on social media you wouldn’t want the entire world to see
  63. Don’t stay in a bad situation because you’re afraid of change — the sunk-cost fallacy
  64. If you want a big wedding, start saving money as early as you can
  65. Travel as much as you can
  66. Buy something that is high quality rather than a cheaper version — it will last longer and you won’t have to re-buy it as soon
  67. Don’t invest in multi-level-marketing schemes
  68. Count calories to lose weight — don’t engage in trend diets
  69. Take care of your body
  70. Quit smoking
  71. Drink in moderation
  72. Donate or sell anything you don’t use
  73. Remember to change your oil
  74. Tip 20%
  75. Don’t be afraid to ask for a second opinion
  76. Start looking for a new job before you quit your current job
  77. Don’t be afraid to take chances, even if you could fail
  78. Ask advice from people who know more than you
  79. Ask for what you want
  80. Learn how to make an excellent first impression
  81. Learn how to make a habit
  82. Trust your instincts
  83. Experiences are more important than things
  84. Enjoy the moment
  85. Learn how to organize things in your own way — you don’t have to embrace minimalism if that’s not for you
  86. Set reasonable goals for yourself
  87. Learn to be okay with being alone
  88. Make a five-year plan
  89. Have a toolbox
  90. Make a cleaning to-do list for each day — you’ll spend less time on the weekends!
  91. Make your bed each morning
  92. Think hard about it before you decide to get a pet
  93. Keep things in your online cart overnight before deciding to buy them
  94. When obtaining an apartment or house, check and make sure there are enough electrical outlets
  95. Learn the ultimate rules of etiquette — Emily Post’s Etiquette
  96. Realize it’s okay to stay home — and even to go to bed at 9 PM
  97. Buying things on sale is only cheaper if you were going to purchase that item in the first place
  98. Remember people’s names
  99. Listen more than you speak
  100. Accept that some people just don’t like you… and that’s okay
  101. Be polite to them anyways

A great book on this is Adulting: How to Become a Grown-Up in 535 Easy(ish) Steps by Kelly Williams Brown. I bought the original version of the book, and I highly recommend it. I haven’t read the newest version yet, but I have no doubt it will be just as illuminating! Also, you can get it for as cheap as $3.99 on Kindle. What a deal!

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Age

Dressing for Your Age is Overrated

I’m almost 36 now. Am I supposed to dress like it? Because it’s come up in conversation, but I don’t want to.

I recently bought a short skirt to wear for the winter. It’s admittedly super short, so I’m wearing it with tights and stilettos. However, I have to say that I look super cute in it — I won’t even be modest. I have great legs, and I love showing them off. (Now, if only I had a flat stomach…)

But when I showed my parents, they suggested it was too young for me and that I should dress my age! I’m sorry, but I’m not going to adult like that. Oprah even says that women over 40 should have hair shorter than their shoulders — and I’m keeping my long hair FOREVER. And if I can keep it blonde, more power to me!

I decided I’m going to dress for the age I look like and not for my age. Therefore, I’m going to dress like I’m in my mid-20s. I don’t know what people in their mid-30s wear, but I know that I don’t want to wear it.

What am I supposed to do? Throw away all of my short skirts and dresses? Sell all of my Lilly Pulitzer dresses, skirts, skorts, and shorts because they’re too short, bright, and have too lively of prints for somebody my age? (It will be a cold day in hell before you pry my Lilly Pulitzer from my dead hands.) I’d basically have NO wardrobe if I got rid of everything considered too young for my age.

Moreover, I love my wardrobe the way it is now. I don’t want to buy more mature clothes. I don’t care if I look like a mature adult. I’ve always dressed differently and more distinctly than everybody else, and that will NOT change anytime soon. I love looking unique. I don’t follow trends — I make my own.

Perhaps I’m inadequately adulting by refusing to dress my age. But why would I do that when I love dressing like I’m young? Age is just a silly number and a feeling. I still feel incredibly young. So why not dress like I am? Who cares if other people disapprove? I’ve never cared what they thought before — this is not the time to start!

I’ll inadequately adult in this way until I’m old and gray. I refuse to change who I am! Dressing for your age is way overrated.